My name is John Wilder. I have a question for you. If you are having man problems does it not make more sense to talk to a man than to your girlfriends. Think back to Sex and the City. Carrie in spite of being a sex columnist was clueless about men. She would go to her gal pals who were equally clueless about men. If you want to know about a man, then why not go to a trusted man to ask him. There are no nationally syndicated male advice columnists that I am aware of. I say that demonstrates reverse sexism.
Chic Galleria has taken the bold step in having me write an advice column for you readers. I invite you to send me your questions. If they are sexual problems I won’t be able to print them but I can answer them if you send them to me at my email address at marriagecoach1@yahoo.com. All other questions fire away.
2 comments
Posted by: Ramona E. on May 12, 2011 at 1:49 pm
John, I have (2) questions that I’m looking for a male’s perspective on. (1). What, in a man’s mind, does he see in a woman that makes her a wife? (2). Why do men feel the need to have more than one woman at a time in their lives?
Posted by: John Wilder on May 13, 2011 at 5:54 am
Hey Ramona
Sounds like you have personal experience with this. Let me first offer my sympathy for the pain that this guy caused.
In answer to your first question, a guy wants a woman to be his best friend and always take his side in a dispute with someone else. He wants to be accepted without a woman thinking that she needs to totally remake him. Above all, he needs respect even more than he needs sex and to take care of his physical needs lovingly and willingly.
As to the second question, not all men are like this. Sadly some men are not mature and think that having more than one woman makes him a stud, instead of the dud he actually is. I can tell you that when a woman does not take care of all of his physical needs then some men go hunting for relief outside the marriage or relationship. I hope that this helps.
Blessings on you and yours
John Wilder