How To Dance After Divorce

Are there days when you feel you can’t make it because you have experienced the impact of divorce? Has the reality of divorce set in and you feel overwhelmed by its loss? Are there nights that the pain is so deep that if you could, you would reach within yourself and snatch it out?

The “D” word is sometimes a sign of failure, grief, crushed hopes and damaged dreams. Divorce somehow finds its way into the lives of many without want or provocation. The reality of the effects of divorce can stop an individual dead in their tracks, preventing forward movement or progression. But right here and now we are going to learn “How to Dance After Divorce”.

I guess you may be wondering why dance? Dancing is an expression of freedom. You can create your own rhythm, your own tune and your own steps. Dancing is liberating and requires movement. You aren’t dancing unless you are moving.

Movement is a key to getting past the pain of divorce. In order to get to the next phase of your life you have got to move. You really don’t want, nor can you afford to be stuck because your dream marriage has ended. You are still living and in spite of roadblocks and detours, life is about progression. Forward movement.

Are you ready to dance? Here are 5 goals to help you get moving.

1) Build Your Faith: Use this time of transition to build your faith. Faith is belief even without seeing. It allows you to walk in the hope that everything will work out for your good and that regardless of the situation you will come through triumphantly. You must believe within yourself that this is not the end, but the beginning of the next phase of your life.

2) Find Your Voice: Sometimes marriage can stifle or muffle your voice. Women often times walk in the shadow of their spouses. Sometimes known as John’s wife or Katie’s mom. But now, you can find your own voice. How do you find it? You can resurrect your dreams, create a goal based life plan, start a blog or even write a book. There are many avenues available to give life to your voice. Find your voice and speak boldy.

3) Re-kindle Your Inner Fire: It is on purpose that this is next. Your inner fire is the passion on the inside of you. That burning desire to make something happen in your life and in the life of others. Re-ignite the passion which may be burning dim or it could have been reduced to smoldering amber. Your passion is there waiting for you to set it ablaze to burn like never before.

4) Forgive. Forgive. Forgive.: There is nothing that is as relentless and can stalk you more than the memories of your past. Everywhere you go and everywhere you are your past follows you. Lurking and waiting to remind you of things gone wrong in your life. Unfortunately, you aren’t physically designed with a memory switch to turn off the memories of the past. But a powerful tool you can use is forgiveness. Forgiveness is a process which can help you to move past the past. Remember that forgiveness includes not only the forgiveness of others, but of yourself, as well. Forgiveness is cleansing and allows you to be released from the pain of your past and releases others from haunting you in your future.

5) See Your Future and Move Forward: Now that you have cleared the path, you can see your future and move forward with clearer direction, vision and purpose. Move into the time and space where you can live your dreams, share your passion and reach your full potential.

It’s time to dance baby dance!

As a Certified Professional Coach, speaker and entrepreneur, Cheryl Pullins has a passion for writing and empowering women. With humor and transparency As the founder of Triumphant Living Coaching & Training Cheryl’s mission is to assist women with being successful in business and life. For more information on Cheryl visit her at www.cherylapullins.com